Talking to Children about Divorce

Divorce can be a difficult and emotional process for spouses, and it can be even harder to process for children involved in the proceedings. Parents may struggle to know the right way to break the news to their children that they’re getting divorced. They may have questions about why their parents are separating and where they will end up living as a result. At Virginia Family Law Center, P.C., we’re here to help Virginia couples talk to their children about divorce and explain how our services can help. 

How Should We Tell Our Children We’re Divorcing?

If possible, it’s best to talk to your children about the divorce together as a couple. This can help your children understand that both parents are committed to caring for them after divorce. Here are some helpful tips that can help you explain divorce to your children:

1) Be Prepared With What You’d Like to Say

It can be nerve-wracking to present the topic to your children, so it’s best to prepare what you’d like to say beforehand as a couple. This can ensure that you are calm and well-prepared for the conversation. In addition, parents should prepare for the reactions of their children and have a plan prepared to handle any upsetting emotions that may arise. Spouses should discuss how they will talk through their children’s emotions and help provide clarity and support to the situation. In addition, parents should be mindful of the ages of their children and prepare their conversations accordingly. 

2) Avoid Placing Blame on Anyone

Though spouses may be tempted to point fingers as to whose fault the divorce is, it’s best to avoid placing blame on anyone. This can persuade children to “choose sides” and decide for themselves who to blame for the marriage’s end. Not only does this place pressure on the child, but it can cause unnecessary stress to an already difficult situation. Instead of placing blame, parents can provide explanations such as, “We aren’t happy being married and feel it’s best to be apart.” This will provide clarity to the situation and avoid putting children in the middle of the conflict. 

3) Provide Answers to Their Questions

It’s natural for children to have questions about the divorce, including where they’re going to live and if they’ll need to change schools. Make sure to answer their questions to the best of your ability and reassure them that you will be there for them through any changes. If parents aren’t sure yet of custody arrangements or other aspects that may change, be sure to explain this to them. Honesty and transparency are key in answering their questions and ensuring they feel comfortable understanding the divorce process. 

How Can Virginia Family Law Center, P.C. Help?

Our team is dedicated to helping with all of your legal needs, no matter what stage your divorce is at. In addition to providing legal advice, we’re here to help with all of your needs associated with your divorce. We’re experts at providing friendly and reliable service, and we’ll ensure that you’re comfortable throughout the entire divorce process. 

Contact Us Today

If you have questions about how to talk to your children about divorce, contact us today. We’re happy to answer any questions you may have.